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Are sensitive children more prone to being anxious?

I often overhear people talking to one another nowadays, about being anxious or stressed out. It seems to me they think this is a normal way of living. The words ‘under pressure’, ‘not enough hours in the day’, ‘weighed down’ or ‘can’t cope with it all’ are used regularly.. They seem to consider that success in life is directly proportional to the amount of stress and anxiety one endures. Struggle is considered like ‘badge of honour’.

However, something is being overlooked by the person who is struggling with stress and anxiety. It is in fact something that may cause damage to the mental health of the young people, especially sensitive children! Indeed, we are all guilty here and must take responsibility for a better solution.

Consider this… When you struggle with anxiety and stress, who is watching, listening and learning from you about the strategies needed to get by in this world? I’m guessing that it is probably your own young childern.

Now, are these the same children you were so proud of when you realised how easily they learnt new words and activities? You may have even said that they ‘soaked up information like a sponge’..

But here’s the thing, they are also ‘soaking up’ and learning the mindset of being anxious, under pressure and stressed as well. Sensitive children in particular ‘soak up’ the emotions they feel around them, regardless of whether that be happy, comfortable, stressed, or anxious. Learning unhelpful difficult emotions is not going to benefit them. Now I’m not pointing my finger at you… It is not really your fault … You absorbed the very same lessons when you were young yourself and that became your blueprint for living.

In all honesty, we are all operating from a similar blueprint which has come down through the generations and at this point in our existence it is completely outdated.

So, if you struggle with anxiety or stress in your life and you think this may be negatively impacting your lovely young sensitive children, then I ask you to stop and do something for yourself. Help yourself first. Learn and start practising techniques which will really help create a calmer, more relaxed and easier life for you.

Now imagine seeing your young sensitive children ‘soaking up’ a simpler and easier approach to living from following your positive example. Know that they can now learn to deal with life in a more relaxed, calm and confident manner. I’m sure you’ll agree that this is a much more valuable learning for young and sensitive people.

If you would like to learn strategies to live a happier life or if you wish to update your blueprint to have a really positive impact on your sensitive children, then click to book a Free Consultation.

I would be delighted to help you.

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On Valentine’s Day treat yourself to some self love

School life for the most part is an enjoyable and friendly part of our lives. Especially in the younger years where the learning is based on fun activities and hands on learning. We all know how the Infants love their work and can’t wait to get homework and do real grown-up writing! The further into the system we go however the more intense and serious the whole learning process becomes and the pressure and stress of achieving becomes the ultimate prize… It is called Points!

When the Leaving Cert looms ahead the talk of exams and courses and colleges and Points become the be all and end all of life. Recently, I chatted with an 18yr old student, and she told me that her parents are very supportive, they wish for her to do well, and are not pressurising her or ‘on her case’ about it. As parents, they wish the best for her and are there to support her.

She added that her teachers are very helpful too. They give all the advice and guidance they can, and they too wish that she does well. They are doing their part to teach and encourage her but they are not pressurising her. They wish for her to achieve the best outcome for herself.

So where is all this pressure coming from in the race for Points?

When an over-emphasis on something takes over your life, eg Leaving Cert, it creates a constant thinking about, a constant doing and a constant feeling of ‘never enough’. The inner dialogue becomes frustrated and irritable and is never satisfied with progress. The ‘Should do’ and the ‘Must do’ and the ‘Have to’ seems to be relentless. No wonder the Leaving Cert preparation has such an exhausting and negative impact on the majority of our students’ mental health.

‘Should do’ seems to hang over your head and it makes you feel like what you do will never be good enough. ‘Must do’ feels like someone is standing over us, and they will most likely be negative or cross with our efforts anyway. And ‘Having to’… Doesn’t sit well with anyone. Who likes having to do something? When we do things that make us feel well and that we enjoy, we are much more likely to get a favourable result.

Those type of continuous negative thoughts and feelings, and the behaviours associated with them, are enough to wear a body and mind out. Students feel the sense of judgement which goes along with not being or doing enough for the study and the upcoming exams. They begin to doubt their own abilities. Many of the students feel unsure about their own innate strengths and think that those qualities aren’t required or aren’t good enough. It seems that the only thing that matters is… Points!

It is actually like a mass hysteria, a hypnotic mindset that makes students feel and think in a stressed and anxious way. This makes them act out of character and has them tired, irritable and lacking in self-confidence. That negative type of hysteria is impacting our young people; we call it Points, but there is no method being taught to help counteract that panic.

Ultimately, students know that the whole world will not stop because of a week or two of ongoing exams. But they still get caught up in the pressure and the hype, the stress and worry of it all, and they find it difficult to mentally switch out of the pressure and have some reset or pause time.

It is high time that we as adults ‘Point’ our students to a different and more positively encouraging system! A strategy that points the students to their strengths and natural abilities. A strategy which steers them towards being happy and fulfilled and excited for living. A strategy that encourages students to tune into their imaginations for the life they wish to live.

Imagine if this strategy could be achieved alongside the Leaving Cert syllabus… It would help keep a sense of balance and confidence in the students’ lives. Imagine pointing the students to consider this…A world where you see and hear and feel yourself being really fulfilled in your work and personal life while having time for play in your life as well.

We as adults are not leading by example because in our own way we are already all consumed with Points… We are all about the concept of ‘What you are’ instead of appreciating ‘Who you are’. And then we wonder why our students are having mental health issues! They may just be following our lead. It seems we are delusional already and are saying… ‘You are not good enough and you must strive to be something else’.

I am no longer working in the area in which I trained years ago. I eventually listened to what makes my heart sing and am following my true expression of me. You too are already good enough and the world awaits your brilliance. If you would like to learn more about connecting into your true self and being happy in your life, then give me a call. Learn to live life your way.

life is like a journey

It all begins with an idea.